Friday, January 15, 2016

Bridal Fever: Things to know before saying "I do"

Bridal Fever

With all this wedding stuff surrounding me I drink my Dr. Pepper out of a wine glass. Great way to begin, right? I thought so too.. The bridal fever has hit me and my friends hard. You have no clue how hard it is for me to try to not let this run my life. Don't get me wrong, I am completely and utterly excited, happy and in love. But I don't want every moment of my life to revolve around it. I actually had this deal with myself one day this past week that I wouldn't think about it or talk about the wedding at all one day. I had done SO GOOD! Then The Farmer mentioned it that night and I fell into it. I began rattling off my plans and wishes. So, I just gave in and decided to talk about it whenever people talked about it, may drive them crazy but I'm supposed to be happy. I'm supposed to be talking about this! This is one of my milestones in life! One of my bridesmaids, Jordan, has been sending me several links a day on Pinterest which go back to some very interesting sites. Like this one.. BEWARE: If sex is a dirty thought (No pun intended) you may want to skip to the next post. 

This comes from club 31 women. It's basically a website for women who are passionate about families, God, their husbands and just life in general. This particular article was written from a mother to other women in a "little black book", they were given to young women s bridal shower gifts they had pages of encouragement, how to keep your relationship happy and even a few scandalous sex pages. It was such a hit that the woman wrote a post about it, this one is to her daughter who had recently gotten married. Some of it I laughed at, I don't agree with everything, My Farmer is a bit different than most men. But it was a good read! 
Here is what was in the "Little Black Book":

1.      When you find out what really ticks him off, stop doing it.
2.      Don’t ask him to fill needs in your life only God can fill.
3.      He is not your dad.
4.      Husband’s first aid kit: Is he discouraged? (Sex.) Is he lonely? (Sex.) Is he feeling hopeless? (Sex.) Is he grieving? (Sex.) Is he tired? (Sex.)
5.      He doesn’t know what you’re feeling. You have to tell him.
6.      He doesn’t know what you’re thinking. You have to tell him.
7.      He doesn’t know why you’re upset. You have to tell him.
8.      He didn’t stop being who he is when you got married. Let him go play with the guys. Let him pursue his hobbies.
9.      Only God can change a person. You cannot change him.
10.   A man needs time to unwind after work. Give him space.
11.    Don’t complain to your girlfriends about him.
12.    Tell your girlfriends how awesome he is. Brag.
13.    Put yourself in his shoes. What was his day like? Did he sleep well?
14.    Christ above all. Get your joy from Christ. Get your fulfillment from Christ. Get your purpose from Christ. Get your self-worth from Christ. Get your encouragement from Christ.
15.    Pray for him.
16.    Learn to be a good cook. (But if you can’t, distract him in the bedroom.)
17.    You wouldn’t make him go days without food or water. Don’t make him go days without you. If you know what I mean.
18.    Not in the mood? Ask for 15 minutes and go get that way. A bubble bath? Perfume? Women are crock pots and need more time to heat up.
19.    God is faithful about money, heart issues, forgiveness –all that. But God is also faithful in the bedroom. You can pray and ask for help and wisdom in that room just like you can anywhere else.
20.    Obey God. It does wonders for your man.
21.    Learn your man’s language. What makes him feel most loved?
22.    Make sure he has clean socks and underwear in the drawer.
23.    Apologize. Quickly.
24.    Study any flaws in how you express anger and fix them.
25.    Practice grace. Let the poor guy have some faults.
26.    Speak words of respect.
27.    Let him have some dreams.
28.    Make your thoughts about him obey Christ.
29.    Don’t answer for him. If someone asks you if he can do something, say, “I don’t know. You’ll have to ask him.”
30.    Put a new piece of lingerie in his stocking every Christmas. Oh yes.
31.    When you go on a date, decide what hot topics you will avoid.
32.    Create a peaceful home environment. Keep it simple and tidy –something cozy to come home to after a hard day.
33.    Sex is an intimate art. It takes years to perfect. Practice, practice, practice.
34.    Do not try to talk to him during sports highlights.
35.    Flirt.
36.    Look for ways to make him smile. It might be as easy as buying popsicles as a surprise.
37.    Always try to make your marriage a little better.
38.    Slow dance in the kitchen, even if it makes your kids act like they’re going to throw up.
There you go, my girl. You’ll need to add to the list, I’m sure. There’s always something new to learn –about yourself, about him, about God’s expectations in each unique situation.

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